Does one page on your site have a far higher Bounce Rate than the others? Check it and see if the links on it are all leading users away from your site. If that's not the culprit, perhaps its content isn't compelling enough.
Facebook won't answer 99%+ of any questions you have for them. Why? Because they are running an enormous site with a surprisingly tiny number of employees. Hence many of the judgement calls come from bots.
Understanding the people you tweet with is, of course, a great way to determine if offsite connections are going to be worth it. After all, offsite connections that are hundreds of miles away are not likely to be easy, cheap, or even possible.
So you know what's it like. You post a selfie taken at the ballgame. Except you told your boss that you were home sick, with the flu. You were supposed to be with your significant other. But, oops, you checked into Foursquare. With your friend. You know, the one with benefits.
If you don't spend time planning, you'll spend it writing. And if you don't spend time writing, you'll spend it editing. If you don't spend time editing, then packaging becomes enormous and takes longer. If you don't work on packaging and spend time on it, then querying will take longer, because you'll be faced with more rejections. And finally, if you don't spend time querying, and just take what you can get (and that includes self-publishing—no slam on it, but it is something we do without spending any time on querying), then you will spend that time on marketing.